Sapha Arias Of Your Soulful Goddess On 5 Things You Need To Know To Survive And Thrive After A Divorce
An Interview With Fotis Georgiadis
… You one hundred thousand percent do not need to be perfectly healed to get into a healthy relationship. — And yeah, I know that I’ve been in the yoga slash “light and love” community for a while, but I promise, I have heard the following word used by psychologists, neuroscientists, and self-help people alike. And that word is, “Attracting”… “Attracting” someone doesn’t mean that if you’re not perfect from head to toe, you will continue “attracting” the same person in different suits, and with different names time and again. It simply doesn’t. Yet for some reason, this seems to be the lesson we are teaching people nowadays, and it really ruffles my feathers because it’s akin to emotionally bypassing someone’s reality. It’s as bad as saying, “everything happens for a reason”. Sure it sounds nice on the surface, and it makes the people saying it feel like they are sharing some incredibly wise advice, but in truth, it is causing an incredible amount of damage to a person’s subconscious mind, and in many cases, it’s telling them that they are too broken to ever be deserving of real love. So, please, don’t for a moment believe that if you need to be picture perfect in order to magnetize (I refuse to use attract in this context) a healthy, thriving, long lasting and equal relationship you can take deep pleasure in
As part of our series about the “5 Things You Need To Know To Survive And Thrive After A Divorce Or Breakup” I had the pleasure of interviewing Sapha Arias.
Sapha is a feminine embodiment and relationship mentor with over a decade of experience specializing in helping womxn reclaim their feminine self-authority, so they can get the aligned relationship and life they deeply desire.
She’s known for her unique approach to feminine energetics, empowerment, and no-nonsense introspective work that explores the root of trauma and core wounds in a person’s subconscious with compassion and respect for each individual’s needs.
Sapha’s mentorship has helped numerous clients reconnect to their purpose, inner power, and sense of self; effectively providing them with tools to change their lives for the better.
Sapha’s personal experience with emotional and psychological trauma, as well as her passion for life has led her to search for, cultivate and refine healing techniques that allow her to guide womxn to become deeply devoted to their process without dismissing the validity of their life experiences. Her goal is to see every womxn empowered, in love, and deeply fulfilled.
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to ‘get to know you’. Can you tell us a bit about how you grew up?
I grew up amidst the bustling crowds, the rich culture, and the beautiful history of a strong, hard-working, and loving people, Mexico City.
My childhood wasn’t filled with the care-free delight so many of my friends had experienced having grown up in the US. But it was filled with the unequivocable warmth of a Mexican hearth, overflowing with familial devotion, a myriad of mythologies to sink your teeth into, and the wisdom of the ages that so often seems to permeate such ancient places.
It was a full, and colorful childhood, with many ups and downs, and its fair share of trauma, but it was a journey that ultimately formed much of my sense of self, and I am so very grateful for it.
Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
Imagine waking up one morning and realizing that you’ve been living your life on autopilot. Just, going through the motions, but never really connecting to what you are doing, who you are with, or what you are experiencing.
Then, picture what it would feel like to also recognize that you no longer know who you are. And I don’t mean that in a “oh, we all go through periods of rediscovery in our lives” kind of way. I mean this in the most heart-wrenchingly terrifying burden of having given so much of yourself, sacrificing so much just so that everyone around you could be taken care of at your own expense, that the essence of who you are is simply gone.
That disconcerting, and numb place is where my current work as a feminine embodiment and relationship mentor began. It was a gradual awakening that brought me here, and it’s a tale of courageous action, and unyielding dedication.
It’s the tale of a journey through the underworld, and it all began with a tear-filled breakdown on my yoga mat.
I always laugh when I describe this, because in all honesty, I didn’t choose this quest right from the first. Honestly, it chose me, and it found me, in the middle of a vinyasa class, surrounded by beautifully bendy yogis who must have been at least a little uncomfortable to hear my sniffles as they blissed out in pigeon pose.
But yeah, that’s where it all began, and that was my first clue, my first exposure to the world of true embodiment, and even when I didn’t know it by that name in that moment, I knew that the tears I had found while “flossing” my hips were going to be my way back to the land of the living.
It was in that moment that I chose to pay attention to the stories my body was telling me, and it was through that process, that I was able to find the courage to research, study, and ultimately, become adept at feminine embodiment. *A term, which, by the way, still confuses various members of my family, and some strangers, and which I take deep pride and pleasure in.
Because it’s not as if there was a specific PHD on this, but I’d been able to, not only heal much of my subconscious patterns through these practices, but to also reclaim my life entirely, so show could I not pursue it?
I’d gone from numb, disconnected, and voiceless to radiantly present, and deeply empowered! And all I could think of was, “I want this for every single womxn out there”. And so, here we are.
Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started this career?
The biggest thing has been discovering how many of us are absolutely parched for real feminine embodiment, and simultaneously, how many of us are hyper-resistant to it because there has been such a misrepresentation of the feminine for so long that we don’t really want to deal with it.
The truth is, we have become a society obsessed with the subconscious need to cage, subdue, and in some cases, vilify the feminine, and this old paradigm has taken a toll on all of us in ways we can’t even begin to fathom.
On the one hand, you have those who believe that the word “feminine” means “diva”, and that anyone who is open about wanting to “reclaim their feminine self-authority” (as these are the words I’ve chosen to use in my business) must be a nut case who hates men, and behave like bratty, entitled, over-the-top people who want to be served grapes from a golden plate whilst being fanned by a person in scant clothing.
On the other hand, you have those who feel like the word “feminine” has been weaponized against them. For example, I hear so often that people who desire to be in an equal partnership need to learn how to be less “intimidating”, and that the more “feminine” you can be (and in this case, they are using the word to describe sweet, quiet, dainty, delicate and even subservient depending on whom you’re speaking to) the more likely you are to get the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
And then, of course, you have those who believe this is all just a new age fad, and who’d rather not associate with the crazies, and the hippies touting this stuff.
I feel like I’m always walking the line between several different realities all at once, and I have to tell you, I’ve really enjoyed the chance to deconstruct it all because it’s so very needed.
Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?
Well, this isn’t so much a funny mistake, as it is a business-centric one. But when I first made the transition from yoga teacher and nutrition coach to feminine embodiment and relationship mentor, I was still meeting with clients 1:1 for pennies on the dollar, and this was leaving me energetically, emotionally, mentally, and financially depleted.
And in all honesty, I was afraid to make a change because I wanted to keep serving as many people as possible, and I didn’t know how to go about stepping into my worth in this specific arena.
It took many conversations with my inner child, and my business coach to finally shift the dynamics of my business, and probably the biggest lesson I learned was that, just as I had learned to stop bending over backwards to please everyone in my personal life, so too did I need to create healthier boundaries, honor my value, and lean into my worth in my own business.
The moment I recognized that, was the moment everything changed.
Do you have a favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life or your work?
“Their lack of effort was never a cry for help or an invitation for you to prove your strength, your worthiness or your love”
This is the marvelous, and potentially “sticky” part of being a high caliber womxn. Because you will show up in all areas of your life with a deep desire to “do the work”, to move through it, and excel, and the thing is that sometimes, we interpret that powerful realm of dedication as a forceful task where failure is not an option.
Yet, the reality is that the more present we learn to be within our sense of integrity and self-devotion, the less we have to “push”, and the more readily we can recognize that it is not up to us to save everyone, to prioritize everyone above ourselves, or to keep showing up when the other person was never fully invested in the first place.
Particularly in relationships, powerful womxn tend to see the promise of potential as an open-ended invitation to “work at it”, and in truth, it’s nothing more than a wishful projection of an unrealized and unmet desire.
There is a time to show up and do the work, and there is a time to stand your ground, put the effort-filled tools away, and flow.
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
Well, my heart of hearts is my Freedom of the Goddess program, which is an intensive on feminine leadership, emotional intelligence, and empowered action reflective of the feminine archetypes — I even created a little quiz for the program, where you can find your personal archetype, which is lots of fun.
Also, at the beginning of this year, I opened the doors to “DEVOTED”, a 12-week program aimed at helping powerful womxn get into an aligned partnership with a person that is their equal even if they’ve been in a toxic relationship in the past. — My intention with this program was to help womxn reclaim their voices, take pleasure in falling in love with their energetic match, and put away the old narratives that told them they needed to be perfectly healed or impeccably delicate to be in an equal partnership. I know what that’s like, and I want better for every womxn out there.
I’ve also got a year-long luxury experience I’m creating right now that I can’t wait to launch, but everything is still in the “womb” right now, so to speak.
Oh, and I will be relaunching my signature Shadow Work course again later this fall, which I am incredibly excited about because the transformations from that particular container have been incredible!
Ok. Thank you for that. Let’s now shift to the main part of our discussion. Can you tell us a bit about your experience going through a divorce, or helping someone who was going through a divorce? What did you learn about yourself during and after the experience? Do you feel comfortable sharing a story?
Yes, absolutely! I’d love to share my story, that’s actually one of the biggest reasons I’m here today, doing the kind of work I do, because I’ve been there. And I know what it feels like, that sharp pain in your chest that threatens to crush you in the middle of the night. The one that keeps your mind repeating, “My marriage wasn’t supposed to be like this! To end like this! To shatter my heart like this!” over and over. Especially, when YOU are the one making the call to end things so you can live a better life.
No one ever really warned me about that, you know? I mean, goodness knows I got plenty of advice from everyone prior to getting married (heck, I even went to a marriage counselor beforehand), but no one ever told me that happy ever after isn’t always so charming after all, or that losing your identity in a toxic relationship can happen so slowly, you don’t even notice it’s happened until it’s too late.
Add to that the pressure of wanting to do things differently from my parents, the societal and religious structures, and beliefs I’d been raised to care about, and well, you have sort of the perfect storm to make divorce seem like one of the most horrific things a human being could do or experience on this planet.
To be honest with you, that’s one of the reasons I stayed for so long. I didn’t want to “fail” or be seen like a heartless monster who’d chosen to walk away from a situation everyone from the outside looking in would have deemed ideal. I didn’t want to be in pain or deal with the discomfort of the wounds I’d been left with after 12 years.
But I knew I needed to take my life back, and I had gotten to the point in my embodiment journey where I couldn’t keep pretending that everything was ok anymore.
I couldn’t keep walking on eggshells and ignoring the numbness in my heart.
Couldn’t prioritize everyone else’s needs above my own anymore.
The time had come to face the music and choose ME first, second, and last, and I had never been taught that doing that was anything other than selfish, but I could see the lie in that pattern, and ultimately chose to reclaim my life, stand up for my highest potential and good, and declare myself free from the miasmic quality my relationship had taken on. It was time, and I was finally ready to take that step and thrive.
Making the decision took an extraordinary amount of courage, but I have to tell you, I never felt so strong nor so sure of myself. And even though maneuvering some of the more challenging spots wasn’t easy, and there was, in fact a lot to heal, I’ve learned over the years never to force, resist, or run away from the deep growth and expansion we can gain from these moments in our lives. So I leaned in, and I stayed true, and learned that I am not only more powerful, resilient, and capable than I gave myself credit for, but that the information we’ve been fed as womxn from an early age around marriage and relationships needs to change.
Because for every person who showed up to support, love and embrace me without judgment during this time, there were 5 more trying to say this was “fixable”, or that if there hadn’t been any cheating of physical harm, it made no sense. Heck, I even had someone say that even if I was tired of all the fighting and screaming, or even if I was not fulfilled in my marriage, God could “fill the gap” and I could stay and simply focus on that even if the rest was crap.
I say this, understanding that no one had ill intentions, by the way, and I have never judged anyone for approaching the situation in that manner, but it definitely became clear to me that we have created structures, paradigms, and verbiage that keep us in situations that are in essence, enslaving us.
These rigidly unyielding concepts have prevented us from understanding that toxic doesn’t have to be deadly.
Too many womxn are being dismissed on a regular basis because when they say they feel like they’re in a toxic marriage because the other person isn’t growing, or because they are gaslighting them, or because there is no respect left, or because they fell out of love, or because they want to share their lives with someone who sees them, cherishes them, shows up for and with them in true partnership rather than through power dynamics.
And look, I am not saying there aren’t times when you’ll need to show up, do the work and fight, but I am saying that for many of us, those actions of deep devotion are poured into a space that is not deserving of what we can bring to the table.
If you know that the time to invest in this relationship has come to an end, you are valid, and you deserve better, and you don’t owe anyone any explanations along the way. That was the other thing I learned, and that is super hard for a recovering people pleaser, but let me tell you, it made a huge difference, and I am grateful for each lesson along the way. It was all worth it.
In your opinion, what are the most common mistakes people make after they go through a divorce? What can be done to avoid that?
One of the biggest mistakes you can make, is romanticize the good, second guess your power, and vilify yourself.
I remember when I finally had made the decision, one of the first things that happened was, I started to believe that I was a terrible person. I started to believe that somehow, I had been responsible for the demise of what so many had seen as such an ideal relationship. (And again, it really didn’t help when people commented on this.)
I though, surely, I had caused it all. After all, wasn’t that what the therapist and the self-help books said? That there was something so wrong with me that I had “attracted” person into my life in the first place and therefore made it happen?
And I wasn’t easy to deal with to be sure, I was clingy, and mistrustful insecure and “difficult to love” Wasn’t I? I was for sure “too much” — “too independent”, “too intimidating”, “too sensual”, “too dramatic” and on and on, the barrage of self-depreciating chatter wouldn’t stop.
It took an extraordinary amount of presence, awareness, self-love, and embodiment practices to keep me from losing my grip, and to be honest, I still felt guilty months after the papers had been signed and the divorce had been made official. So much so, that almost a year later, when I had finally opened my heart up to someone new, the first thing I told him was that I was bad news. — I’m chuckling now because I just love that part of myself so much. She was just lost, hurt and confused, and she’d learned to internalize things that didn’t belong to her as a way to survive it all, but I’m glad I worked through it, and can work with that side of me in present time now. But I digress…
Yeah, vilifying yourself, feeling guilty, ashamed and unsure of your decision are all perfectly normal parts of your healing journey. The biggest thing is to learn to observe these subconscious patterns, honor their voice, and release the attachment to the stories they have created for you.
When you start feeling like everything is spinning around these old ideas, working through them, and learning how to embody your healing so it isn’t stuck in your brain alone is super important.
And look, no matter what, I promise you, you are not broken, this was not your fault, it was not all rainbows and unicorns all the time, and you knew you deserved better and that doesn’t make you the villain.
People generally label “divorce” as being “negative”. And yes, while there are downsides, there can also be a lot of positive that comes out of it as well. What would you say that they are? Can you share an example or share a story?
Showing up for yourself from a space of deep self-love is never going to lead you astray and making the decision to get divorced is just that, an act of deep devotion and love the likes of which many people will never understand.
It’s choosing to honor your worth, your values and your integrity, and it is a momentous opportunity to fall madly, deeply, and truly in love with yourself. So, yes, there is pain, there is turmoil, there are changes, and upheaval, and uncertainty day in and day out, but there is also expansion, there is a rewilding of sorts, and there is an opportunity to rise again from the ashes a more radiant, more potently magnetic, more self-assured version of yourself, and that is worth every single moment of pain, discomfort and doubt.
I can sincerely say that this period of transition in my life was when I experienced the biggest growth, the deepest healing, and the most unrelenting sense of expansive freedom. It was the difference between walking around with a mask all the time, to showing up in my radiant truth, without feeling like I needed to be perfect to take up even a miniscule amount of space.
And probably one of the most beautiful things that came from my divorce, was the fact that I was able to seduce, court, and ultimately, fall head over heels for me, and I know, I know that that sounds cliché, but when I tell you, that taking trips, driving in the car, and even going to events by myself became the most delightful experience of my life, I mean it. Honestly, I had forgotten how utterly enjoyable my company was! And I learned to relish being in the quiet peace of my own presence so much, that I make it a point to take time to be alone even now.
But I wasn’t always alone, and this was another little miracle in my life that came post-divorce, because, where I had felt isolated, cutoff and alone for so long, when the toxic dynamics had been put to rest, I was able to delight in my time with my friends. It felt like I had been walking in solitude down a dark alleyway for 12 years, and then, when the flood gates opened, I found myself surrounded by the most incredible womxn I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing.
My friends are my sisters, and they are my heart of hearts. They were my safe space, and my companions from the second I reached out to them and lay my heart bear for them to witness. None of them judged me, and each of them drew a beautiful part of my true self forth from the depths of my soul. — If you have gone through a divorce, trust me, you need a sisterhood to embrace you.
Some people are scared to ‘get back out there’ and date again after being with their former spouse for many years and hearing dating horror stories. What would you say to motivate someone to get back out there and start a new beginning?
The first thing I want to say, is that I get it, and it doesn’t have to be hard or scary.
So, full disclosure, after the divorce, I had gotten so comfortable being on my own, that I really felt like being alone forever (in a very non-dramatic kind of way) didn’t seem like such a bad idea. After all, I had only just started enjoying my “singleness”, and I had gotten married so young that I really just wanted to have some fun and enjoy my newfound freedom in full for a while.
Of course, it didn’t help that I’d been out of the dating game since high school (so, really, I had never been in the dating game at all) and that so many of my single friends had gone on bad date after bad date without any real, long-lasting, and healthy connections that the whole prospect didn’t seem worthwhile at all.
Add to that the annoying chatter around how I really shouldn’t date until I had healed completely from the aftereffects of having been in a toxic relationship, and the harsh realities of how “intimidating” alpha womxn are, and how they have to make themselves “sweeter, more lady-like, and less “masculine”” to “attract” a partner, and well, I wasn’t only reticent, but thoroughly annoyed.
Seriously, who had told these people that being perfect was the only way to get into a healthy, long lasting and equal relationship? Or that being feminine was tantamount to being submissive? And why?
Yeah, I was having none of that.
I even remember my ex-therapist making a comment about how awful dating was going to be for me, and how it was going to take at least one month per every year of marriage to get closer to even trying to date anyone. — Side note: There’s a reason she’s not my therapist anymore, and if you ever get “advice” like that from anyone after your own divorce, check with your inner compass first. That person’s judgements of your life are not your responsibility, and they sure as hell do not define you or act as a curse on your life.
At any rate, the funny thing was that I’d spent so many years understanding feminine energetics, fine-tuning my radical self-authority, and becoming present with my values, needs and boundaries, that none of these things felt heavy enough for me to mind them too much. I mean, they gave me pause, don’t get me wrong, but I knew that if I listened to my intuition, I’d know when the time was right despite any fears I may have been facing, and I knew I could be myself without the need to play games, or soften my supposed “masculine” energy (people rarely know the actual aspects of each).
So, I did just that, and without ever even downloading a single dating app, or spending decades in therapy, I magnetized an aligned partner I consider my equal, and with whom I can share in safe space without any of the old patterns disturbing our devotion to our individual and unit-based growth.
And I’m telling you, if it can happen for me, it can happen for you too. It wasn’t luck, it was my inner sovereignty that helped me along the way, and there are ways for you to tune into that innate part of yourself.
What is the one thing people going through a divorce should be open to changing?
The old beliefs that they are somehow to blame.
I say this all the time, and in fact make this a key element of my course on aligned partnership, but it’s important to remember that you are not to blame.
And when you’ve gone through a divorce, it doesn’t always feel like that. In fact, it often feels like there is more evidence to the contrary, which is how and why so many wind up getting stuck in a state of limbo for far too long after.
Ok, here is the main question of our discussion. If you had a close friend come to you for advice after a divorce, what are 5 things you would advise in order to survive and thrive after the divorce? Can you please give a story or example for each?
- I really hate to repeat myself, but my first point is always going to be “you are not to blame”. — I say this especially because I work with high achieving (read: powerful) womxn who are used to always giving it their all. That is, after all how they are able to thrive in other areas of their lives, like their businesses or even raising their children. That kind of dedication takes a high quality of commitment, resiliency, and love. And so, there’s a heightened level of shame, guilt, blame and self-doubt that can take over at a time like this for these womxn. Imagine giving it all you have, and still coming up short. It doesn’t feel good, and a lot of times, people will internalize this and blame themselves for all of it. So, it’s incredibly important to acknowledge that none of it was your fault, and releasing that burden is the first step to creating a life of deep fulfilment.
- Know that fear is your biggest teacher right now, and that none of the words it whispers in your ears are real. — I say this because I know plenty of people who get stuck in a place of complacency and tension after divorce. These are people who have been alone for years after, and who are pushing aside their healing, their growth, and their power for fear to get caught up in yet another toxic dynamic. And it’s perfectly normal. After all, who would want to go through that heartache all over again? But the thing is, that fear isn’t meant to immobilize and deplete you. Fear is meant to invite you to delve deeper into your heart so you can decipher what works for you, what doesn’t and why. Frank Herbert did a phenomenal job of exemplifying this in his Dune series. In the books, there is a litany against fear that is recited often, and which I have found to be a great reminder of my own capacity to move through the fear in my own life. The litany goes like this, ““I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” *The key phrase there is “Only I will remain.” Because it’s true. If you sit there, and listen to all your fears, you will never take action. You’ll sit there and wonder about what could have been and watch your life waste away from the comfort of your own stagnation. However, if you face your fear, if you allow yourself to move through it regardless of what it tries to make you believe, you will come out victorious, empowered, and intact. So dare to move through it, I promise it’ll be worth it.
- No one gets to tell you how you “should” — This takes me back to what I was sharing about my ex-therapist earlier, and really, it applies to all aspects of your life and with all the people in your life. Everyone is going to have an opinion, and everyone is going to tell you what they think you should or shouldn’t do, but ultimately, the only one who gets to determine what will and won’t work for you is you. You get to take as long as you need to to grieve, and wallow, and rage, and do anything that will help you heal in earnest. You get to decide when you’re ready to date again and under what conditions. You certainly don’t have to join a dating app if you don’t want to, and you can take less than one month per every year you were married or longer than that to start dating again. It is YOUR call. You get to decide whom you allow into your space and why, and you get to choose how you will maneuver these waters.
- You one hundred thousand percent do not need to be perfectly healed to get into a healthy relationship. — And yeah, I know that I’ve been in the yoga slash “light and love” community for a while, but I promise, I have heard the following word used by psychologists, neuroscientists, and self-help people alike. And that word is, “Attracting”… “Attracting” someone doesn’t mean that if you’re not perfect from head to toe, you will continue “attracting” the same person in different suits, and with different names time and again. It simply doesn’t. Yet for some reason, this seems to be the lesson we are teaching people nowadays, and it really ruffles my feathers because it’s akin to emotionally bypassing someone’s reality. It’s as bad as saying, “everything happens for a reason”. Sure it sounds nice on the surface, and it makes the people saying it feel like they are sharing some incredibly wise advice, but in truth, it is causing an incredible amount of damage to a person’s subconscious mind, and in many cases, it’s telling them that they are too broken to ever be deserving of real love. So, please, don’t for a moment believe that if you need to be picture perfect in order to magnetize (I refuse to use attract in this context) a healthy, thriving, long lasting and equal relationship you can take deep pleasure in
- Stop trying to be more “feminine”. — I laugh so hard every time I say this because I am, after all, a feminine embodiment mentor. So how and/or why am I telling you not to try to be more “feminine”? Well, it’s because the truth is we have misunderstood the true characteristics of the feminine and masculine energies in our lives, and we’ve become convicted that the only way for a womxn to be appealing, is for her to let the other person feel more powerful, more “in charge”, more “masculine” (and I mean that even for same-sex couples, I’m actually referring to energy here, not sex), and this couldn’t be further from the truth! Yet I can’t tell you how many coaches out there are still teaching that a womxn has to wait to send a text, or that she has to play down her incredible accomplishments on the first dates, or that she can’t led from her “boss-babe” energy because she’ll just come across as “too much” and she needs to tone it down. It sounds archaic (because it IS) but I have clients in their early thirties who are still being told this! And it drives me nuts! Feminine energy is powerful, it is a veritable force to be reckoned with, and a compatible, aligned masculine energy will respond to that potency without being intimidated in the least. *You wanna be a power couple with someone who is your true equal? Then expand your power and your “muchness”, don’t play it down, that is faux-feminine bull, and the time for that is at an end. Now is the time of the Goddess.
The stress of a divorce can take a toll on both one’s mental and emotional health. In your opinion or experience, what are a few things people going through a divorce can do to alleviate this pain and anguish?
Embodiment practices are the best thing you can do for yourself at a time like this. And it doesn’t have to take up too much of your time. In my personal practice, I teach womxn to use feminine embodiment tools that range from breathing techniques to dance, to what I’ve called :differential movement” to help them integrate all the knowledge they are acquiring during their healing journeys, and I haven’t found or used more potent medicine.
Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources related to this topic that you would recommend to our readers?
I love Brene Brown, and although her work isn’t centric around this, her incredible presence with vulnerability and heart-centric connection has been paramount in my own journey.
I also love the book “When Pain is the Doorway” by Pema Chodron, and “This is Me Letting You Go” by Heidi Priebe
Because of the position that you are in, you are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂
Healing the wounds of the sacred feminine and creating sisterhoods that can bring us all to a place of deep devotion, expansive healing, and Goddess reclamation in our own uniquely wild hearts. That is my passion of passions.
We are very blessed that very prominent leaders read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂
Rosario Dawson is my absolute favorite actorvist, and I had the pleasure of meeting her briefly once, but I would love to chat with her about her work with Eve Ensler.
Thank you for these great insights and for the time you spent with this interview. We wish you only continued success!
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